When my boys were little, I would stand them up on the back of the couch where they could tower over me briefly. While steadying them there, I’d look up as we hugged and say, “One day you will be this big, hugging me”. Their little faces would grow concerned as they’d insist “No, no, Mommy! I’ll never be bigger than YOU!”
Of course, that’s exactly what happened. Now, when I’m blessed to receive a big, warm hug from my tall, grown sons, I’m instantly transported back to those sweet memories. Reminded of what seemed to be an endless stretch of time for hugging my boys, and of the simple, loving comfort a hug can bring at any time, or when we need it most.
Maybe hugging isn’t really your thing. If that’s the case, you might be surprised by just how many physical, emotional and psychological benefits a hug can offer. But if you LOVE hugging, being held, holding someone close, squeezing tight, most of this will not surprise you. Although some I never knew:
Emotional and Psychological Benefits
-Reduces Stress: Hugging lowers levels of cortisol (the stress hormone), helping you feel calmer and more at ease.
-Boosts Oxytocin: Often called the “love hormone,” oxytocin is released during hugs, promoting bonding and a sense of trust and connection.
-Improves Mood: Physical touch, especially hugging, can stimulate the release of serotonin and dopamine, improving mood and reducing feelings of depression.
-Increases Feeling of Belonging: A hug can make someone feel valued, loved, and supported, combating loneliness and social isolation.
Relational Benefits
-Strengthens Relationships: Hugs reinforce emotional closeness and intimacy in romantic relationships, friendships, and family connections.
-Nonverbal Communication: A hug can express empathy, encouragement, or affection without saying a word.
-Conflict Resolution: Hugging can help repair bonds after an argument, showing goodwill and a desire to reconnect.
Physical Benefits
-Lowers Blood Pressure: Physical touch can reduce blood pressure by calming the nervous system.
-Improves Heart Health: Reduced stress and better emotional regulation lead to improved cardiovascular health.
-Strengthens Immune System: Positive social interactions like hugging may boost the immune system by reducing stress-related suppression of immune function.
-Pain Relief: Gentle touch and pressure from hugs can reduce pain by stimulating sensory nerves and blocking pain signals. (Never knew this!)
In Children and Infants
-Promotes Healthy Development: Physical affection helps babies develop secure attachments and healthy brain development.
-Boosts Self-Esteem: Regular hugs reinforce a child’s sense of worth and security.
Fun Fact: Studies show that 20-second hugs can produce the most oxytocin and stress-reducing benefits.
For me, hugging is the perfect unspoken way to say I care about you, you mean something to me, I’ve missed you, I’m sad, I’m sad FOR YOU, I’m sorry, I’m here for you, thank you, I love you…
As human beings, we were created for connection, for meaningful communion with others. Some of us may crave and require more, but all of us are wired for it, long for it, need it. Let’s not allow hugs to become something we outgrow. Let’s never miss an opportunity to give—or receive—a hug from someone we love. It is a gift, meant to be shared. Let’s keep hugs as something WE have to have. And always be grateful for them.